I often hear people ask the question, to their friends or on parenting forums, “How do I talk to my child about sex?”
This question has always confused me because talking to my children is something that has come rather naturally to me. There are parts of parenting that I struggle with, no doubt. For instance, remembering to wash their bed sheets and avoiding power struggles over meals. But for some odd reason, the topics of conversation which my peers often avoid with their own children are topics I do not feel quite so squeamish about.
For that reason, I’ve started transcribing some of these conversations to share with you, my readers.
Please keep in mind that this isn’t everything, this is simply a snapshot. Talking to our children about sex is not something we can undertake once and be done with, but rather it is an on-going conversation throughout their childhood. Starting with toddlers who are just learning their own anatomy and gradually increasing information as it is age appropriate for the child. Just a few minutes of honest conversation a few times a week is all it takes to raise well-informed and unashamed children.
The following is a conversation that occurred between myself and my 2 year old daughter while we were cuddling on the couch.
SunnyGirl *pokes my abdomen*
Me: Hey, why are you poking me?
SunnyGirl: I not poking, I tickling!
Me: Oh really? Well do you know what? You used to tickle me from the inside just like that!
SunnyGirl *wide eyed*
Me: Its true. Before you were born, when you were a baby inside of my uterus, you used to poke me and tickle me and Daddy used to put his hands on my abdomen to feel you move inside of me.
SunnyGirl: I was inside you when I was a baby?
Me: Yup, before you were born.
SunnyGirl: Thats awesome!
Me: Everything is awesome!
SunnyGirl *breaks into song*
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